Adoptive Mom Life | Open Adoption, Adoptive Parenting, Birth Family, Christian Community, Biblical Encouragement
Do you struggle to find the right words to share your adopted child’s stories with them? Do you pray that your child will be able to maintain a strong relationship with their birth families? Do you worry about your child’s mental health or behavioral diagnoses? Ever feel like you’re never enough? Do you find yourself parenting from a place of fear?
I am so glad God led you here! This podcast will help you raise connected and self-aware kids, navigate their stories with love and intention, cultivate healthy, open relationships with their birth families, and guide you through seasons of mental health or trauma-related challenges, all while supporting your own needs as a mama.
Hey, I’m Carly. A believer, work-at-home-mom, wife, and adoptive mom to two amazing kids.
After a long journey with infertility, we felt the Lord calling us to adopt our children. I realized that I didn’t really know how to parent kids from hard beginnings, navigate open relationships with birth families, or handle behavioral or mental health challenges that may come our way. Not only was there not a manual for raising children, there certainly wasn’t a manual for raising adopted children. I felt alone.
Once I let go of my own plans and fully embraced God’s plans for our family, I learned to lean into Him more than myself. I learned how to communicate in a healthy way with our birth families, and I figured out ways to parent my kids that worked for their unique needs. I also learned that I need to unapologetically fill my cup so I can better pour into my kids, especially when things get tough.
I found my voice as an adoptive mom and found other adoptive moms to link arms with. I created a sounding board and support system for myself and other adoptive moms through this podcast, where I talk candidly about parenting adopted kids, and bring in experts in areas where we need the most help. I pray these honest conversations bless you as much as they’ve blessed me!
If you’re ready to...
Be the best mom you can be to your children,
Gain skills in parenting their unique needs,
Support your child’s identity and their sense of belonging in your family,
Help share their stories in an age-appropriate and supportive way,
Navigate birth family relationships for the long haul,
Fill your cup so you can be a joyful, present mom,
And trust God with the outcome of your child’s life - this podcast is for you!
Top off that iced coffee and grab a comfy seat - it’s time to dive in.
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Episodes
Wednesday Feb 05, 2025
Wednesday Feb 05, 2025
How can we better show our love to our spouses while waiting to adopt a child?
This is a really unique season, but also a time where you can pour into one another and build a strong foundation for your future family. In today’s episode, I’m sharing 5 simple ways to show love to your spouse (and most of them cost NOTHING)!
I can’t think of a better time to share tips for loving your spouse than when Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.
Stay tuned, because the next two episodes will follow a similar theme!
Mentioned in this Episode:
The 5 Love Languages Quiz
Connection Cards for Couples
Heartgrown Mama Episode 13
Marriage Conference: Get $100 OFF using group name: HEARTGROWNMAMA
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
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Find our private community on Facebook: Heartgrown Mama
Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Jan 29, 2025
Wednesday Jan 29, 2025
Do you have a picky eater in your home? Are things too green, too squishy, too spicy, too stringy, too bitter, or too sour? I have a child who has become a very picky eater and won’t eat many (if any) fruits or veggies.
So, I created a one-week challenge to eat the rainbow and earn a super fun reward. So far, the kids are LOVING it and we’ve seen some massive improvement in willingness to try new foods!
You can do this in your home, too! Find a food item that feels like a struggle (fish, green veggies, beans, etc.), come up with a clever name for your challenge, and help them work toward a reward that is motivating.
Remember, better nutritional habits won’t be fully cured overnight, but exposure to different foods (with no drama) will slowly create the changes you wish to see.
Let me know if you try this and how it’s working for your family!
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
Check out the blog: heartgrownmama.com
Our private community on Facebook: Heartgrown Mamas: Thriving in the Wait
Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Jan 22, 2025
Wednesday Jan 22, 2025
Are the what-ifs swirling in your mind about your child’s future? Do you lose sleep over worry or anxiety about it? As an adoptive mom, I understand this very well. Today, we will use the acrostic, L.O.V.E. to form healthier thought patterns around these intrusive thoughts.
L: Love
O: Openness
V: Validation
E: Education
Let’s reframe our mind when these thoughts come creeping in, and lead with love. Let’s replace our what-ifs with we-cans!
Remember, we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. Tune in to hear more.
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
Check out the blog: heartgrownmama.com
Our private community on Facebook: Heartgrown Mamas: Thriving in the Wait
Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Jan 15, 2025
Wednesday Jan 15, 2025
In the final episode of our three-part series on self-care, we discuss whether self-care is biblical or if it has selfish implications. I think it can go either way, depending on how it’s being done. Too much of a good thing isn’t always a good thing!
We discuss a handful of scriptures as they pertain to self-care. The Bible doesn’t explicitly mention self-care, but there are some verses that speak to caring for our bodies, minds, and spirits.
As adoptive moms (or moms who are waiting to adopt a child), practicing self-care is an integral part of meeting our own needs so we can meet the needs of our families.
But more importantly, if we can view self-care as a means to be in relationship with our Creator, and not being alone for the sake of being alone, then I think we’re on the right track!
What do you think about self-care? How do you feel after having listened to this episode?
Important note: I'm not a pastor or theologian, these are just *my* personal opinions and perceptions of scripture.
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
Check out the blog: heartgrownmama.com
Our private community on Facebook: Heartgrown Mamas: Thriving in the Wait
Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Jan 08, 2025
Wednesday Jan 08, 2025
Taking care of yourself as an adoptive mom is vital for your well-being and your family’s health. By prioritizing your own needs, you'll be better able to support your child and your family in the long run.
In the second episode of a three-part series, we explore the ways mamas-by-adoption can take some solo time to fill their cups, from coffee with a friend, to perusing the library alone, to counseling, to prayer walks. We are all moms, and we face many of the same challenges, but as adoptive moms, there may be some unique situations that arise in our motherhood journeys.
Tell me…what is your favorite form of self-care? Are you going to implement anything new from today’s episode?
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Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Jan 01, 2025
Wednesday Jan 01, 2025
Happy New Year, friends!
In today’s episode, we’re starting a three-part series on self-care as it pertains to adoption. In Part I, we’re discussing self-care while you wait to adopt a child, from setting solid boundaries, to allowing yourself time to feel, to finding meaning along the way.
I pray this encourages you! Don’t forget to join our private Facebook group for waiting mamas. We also have a digital adoption journal for women in the wait. All are linked below, along with some other fun resources!
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
Check out the blog: heartgrownmama.com
Public community on Facebook: Heartgrown Mama
Private community on Facebook: Heartgrown Mamas: Thriving in the Wait
Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Vision Board
Wednesday Dec 25, 2024
Wednesday Dec 25, 2024
Merry Christmas! This episode just so happens to be posted on Christmas Day!
For all of you mamas who are dealing with emotions on yet another year without a child in the home, I want to encourage you with some scripture for such a time as this.
I pray this encourages you to seek God’s perfect peace and His plan over your own when it comes to growing your family through adoption.
Praying for you, friends.
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Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Dec 18, 2024
Wednesday Dec 18, 2024
It can feel overwhelming thinking about your first meeting with a birth mother, birth father, or birth family. You want to put your best foot forward, but it feels like a fragile situation — one where emotions on both sides are sky-high.
In this episode, my husband and I have a candid conversation about what it’s like to meet a birth family and what we’ve learned from these interactions as adoptive parents.
We’d love to answer YOUR questions, so email them or post them in our Facebook community.
I hope this episode teaches, inspires, or blesses you in some way!
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
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Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/
Wednesday Dec 11, 2024
Wednesday Dec 11, 2024
Ever feel like a fraud or imposter as a mama or mama-to-be? I know I have.
First of all, what is imposter syndrome? By definition, it’s the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills.
Are you waiting to adopt a child and feel like a fraud evening thinking of yourself as a mom? Or are you holding your child in your arms and feel the sting of guilt or grief? Do you walk into a baby or children’s store to buy something and feel like everyone’s staring at you wondering, “Why is she here?” Ever feel like you’re not worthy of the children God has placed in your home?
Friend, this is a very real thing. I want to share a few reasons why you might feel like an imposter and different ways to combat this and step into your role as a mother.
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Wednesday Dec 04, 2024
Wednesday Dec 04, 2024
In today’s podcast, we’re discussing simplifying holidays with little kids, especially if your family was made possible by adoption.
Everything we talk about applies to ALL families with little kids (probably aged 10 and under), but we’re looking at this through the lens of adoption.
This may or may not look different for your family depending on your child’s needs, but I think it’s safe to say all children have a need for simplicity and structure.
When it comes to holidays, specifically Christmastime, what does your family love to do? What works well? What traditions do you hold to? What lights your children up inside? Are there areas where you need to pivot? Let’s dive into today’s topic and talk about ways to simplify the holidays with little kids in the home. The goal here is to make moms, dads and kids feel loved and not overstressed this holiday season.
What are some ways you’re simplifying the holidays this year?
Email Me: heartgrownmamapodcast@gmail.com
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Check out our digital adoption journal: https://heartgrownmama.com/waiting-well-journal/